Comments on: Tell us what you think…..

By: Daisy

Daisy — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 23:12:05 +0000

I personally like chris browns music.. He’s a great singer. What he did to rihanna was wrong and no girl/women should be treated in that wayy. But I dont think his peronal life should have effected his fame nor been involved. Did you guys notice that Rihanna gained fame because of this?? Well I did and I dnt think that’s in anyway, right. I really like his music and im ganna keep listening to his music.. I’m not excusing the fact that he beat up rihanna or giving him props for it. Rihanna shouldn’t get back with chris brown or marry him (and so fourth).

By: maritza rivera

maritza rivera — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 01:58:58 +0000

Everyone’s story makes awareness for Teen Dating Abuse worthwhiled. It’s great to read stories from survivors but not everyone is a survivor. My niece Aneesa Michelle Rivera was not one of the lucky ones. Her story was aired on the BET 106&Park Special. She was in an abusive and controlling relationship with her boyfriend when she broke up with him he threatened to kill her the next day and she bypassed the threats because he’s done it before. This time he made good on his threat so the following morning on October 3.2008 he came to my house with two of his friends and murdered her. She was only 17 years old. Visit http://www.aneesamichelle.org for more of her story and her struggle with Teen Dating Abuse.

By: Paula

Paula — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 03:09:48 +0000

I think Rihanna had a great opportunity to step up and stand up for herself. No one deserves to get hit in a loving relationship. It would have been nice if she could have stood firm and said no to chris brown. So now, I just feel sorry for her. I understand how hard it is to do that though…

I’ve only just managed to stand up for myself recently, too.

By: Clay Conway

Clay Conway — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 00:21:20 +0000

i love cb forever i am a true fan !!

By: Sheri

Sheri — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 00:21:53 +0000

I was in my first abusive relationship when I was 15 and have only been in abusive relationships, each different in some way. The first tried to get me to do things sexually when I didn’t want to. Then I had a couple of relationships where the abuse was verbal and with one of those there was a definate threat of physical abuse. The most recent was by far the worst and I don’t know how I will ever get over it if I can. He was a dream. He said and did all the right things to win me over from little presents to cute little text messages and voicemails. He talked about all the things he had in mind for us for the future. Then he started to pick at me. He made little rude comments about my house, my family, my clothes, my makeup and my hair. He controlled what we had to eat and wouldn’t let me sleep so I was always tired and could barely think straight. He started to isolate me from everyone. He accused me of flirting with everyone I talked to male and female. I kept thinking if I didn’t do anything wrong, he wouldn’t get mad. Everything would be ok as long as I did what he wanted. So I did whatever he asked. I told my friends and family not to call, that I would call them and check in while I was at work and away from him. Pretty soon I saw what he was like when he drank. I had no idea how bad of a drinking problem he had yet. I only saw him drink a couple of times. One day he’d get drunk and say he didn’t care what I did or with whom, that he loved me and couldn’t live without me or that he would die without me. We had a fight one night and I stayed at a friends to avoid him. From that point on, he called me a slut and a whore and swore up and down that I was cheating on him every time he was away from me or if I was running late or fell asleep and didn’t answer my phone. On Christmas day, he was drunk by 11am. He screamed at me and threatened to have me kicked out of my house and that he’d make sure I lost my job and my family. I called a friend to ask for a place to stay that night. Of course, the bf insisted that I was trying to go out and cheat on him. I just wanted to be able to go to bed and actually rest before I had to get up early in the morning. He screamed and carried on for a couple hours then I had a couple hours of peace. About 9pm, he wanted me to come and get in bed with him and he seemed to be ok. He wanted to cuddle in front of the tv and make up. But he wasn’t ok at all. He had sat in the other room drinking while I was in the living room crying. So he was even drunker and decided to punish me for what I had done by pulling my legs apart and raping me with his fist. I never imagined anything could be so painful. And I couldn’t move. I begged him to stop. I told him he was hurting me, and he’d stop for a few minutes then do it again. Even as drunk as he was, he picked me up and through me down on the bed like a ragdoll, (I’m not small at all).This went on till he finally passed out around midnight. I blamed myself because I shouldn’t have called my friend like I did. I should’ve known that would make him mad. After I talked to a couple people, I went ahead and told the police but they said it was my word against his. We broke up and got back together two more times, so I was with him for three more months. It didn’t matter if I did what he wanted or not. He just made up reasons to be mad at me and made up things that I was supposed to have done then blamed those things or just blamed me for his drinking and told me I deserved what I got because I’m a slut and I’m always out whoring around. It’s only been two weeks since the last time he assaulted me and I got away from him this time. I just hope and pray it sticks this time. I moved a hundred miles away from him back with my family. I pray everyday that it’s finally over.

By: David R.& Stephen Z.

David R.& Stephen Z. — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 20:11:52 +0000

I don’t think that they should get back together. I feel that if two people can’t respect each other enough to not put there hands on each other than they should definitely not be with each other, non the less anyone else until they learn how to show respect to the one they so call “love”. Before you can love someone else you should be able to love yourself. My advice to anyone who is in an abusive relationship is to get out of it right away because it is not healthy at all. Of course they will say they are sorry and that they will Never do it again. Okay so give them a second chance everyone is entitled to that BUT take heed to what they have done the first time. If it happens again end the relationship. If you stay in it the chances are it will only get worse. In the end it will be up to you to realize that you are worth SO much more and that they do not deserve you.

By: someone

someone — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 19:56:26 +0000

I don’t think they should be together

By: Brandy

Brandy — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 23:12:01 +0000

Christine, thanks so much for sharing your story! I am writing a paper on this subject-that is how I found your post. You are an amazing writer and obviously have a good head on your shoulders!! Good for you for getting out of that abusive relationship. I wish more girls could be as strong as you have been. You have a lot of insight and wisdom for being so young. I personally have never cared for Rihanna or her music but now am disgusted with her regarding her choice to get back together with Chris Brown-what kind of example is she setting for so many young girls?! You are absolutely right that she should and could have used her experience to benefit others by speaking out against domestic violence. Thanks again for sharing your experience.

By: Christine Brady

Christine Brady — Sun, 15 Mar 2009 05:11:07 +0000

I’m a 16 year old girl from Hockessin, DE and I was recently in an abusive relationship. My ex-boyfriend is 17 years old and I met him about four years ago. We dated four years ago in middle school for 7 months and at that time he showed no signs of being abusive. After years of no contact, we got back in touch and started a new relationship with each other. It was obvious after getting back together with him that he had changed from four years ago. He was attending an alternative school for getting in trouble at his old school, he was an alcoholic (all thanks to his parents who buy him the beer), he had a short temper, and he had a warrant out for his arrest having to do with an altercation he got into with another boy. But even after finding all this stuff out, it didn’t matter to me, I was his girlfriend and I cared about him too much to leave him. Not too long into our relationship is when he started to get abusive. At first it was just verbal threats, that I didn’t take seriously because I wasn’t afraid of him nor did I think he would actually do anything. He just threaten me if I touched his car or cigarettes and I would do it anyway, just to mess with him. As our relationship progressed, he began to physically abuse me. Nothing that I felt was serious though, just a push here or there or light punch to different parts of my body, all in joking. Into the 5th month of our relationship is when it got serious. One night I decided to break up with him over another matter and out of anger I slammed his car door. He got out and we started to argue, then I started to walk away, but I came back. That was my mistake. As I walked back towards him, we started arguing again, and I slammed his car door one more time. He lost it after that. My boyfriend grabbed me, pushed me up against his car, and started choking me, screaming and cursing in my face. I just stared him in the face as he did it, too surprised and shocked to do anything. Then he stopped, threw me to the ground, and walked inside his house. I figured after that, I would be done with him for good, I even told my mother what happened and planned to call the cops that night. I didn’t though, and after I told his mother what he did, he called me the next day and we got back together. That was my second mistake. When I went back to his house 2 weeks after the incident, it was clear he had no remorse for what he did. When his mother asked him, while I was present, if he had choked me, he stated “Yeah, I’ll admit it.” It was obvious he did not care about what he did to me and saw nothing wrong with hurting me. Afterwords, he told me that if I ever slammed his car door again, he would choke me again and break my nose. We broke up again that night and 3 days later I went to the police station and pressed charges against him. They arrested him and he spent a week in a juvenile detention center. The D.A. gave him a deal that if he plead guilty to terroristic threats (he was charged for that for threatening to kill me and others), he would drop the assault charges. My boyfriend was released, put on house arrest for 3 three months, has probation until he is 21, and has to attend anger management classes. Even though I pressed charges because I wanted him to realize that there are consequences when you abuse someone and have him possibly learn a lesson and think before he does it again, I sort of feel cheated by the justice system. I felt silenced, the cops and lawyers and judge cared more about the threats than the assault itself. I was just another domestic abuse victim to them. I didn’t even have a chance to tell what happened and how it emotionally affected me to the lawyers or judge. I believe they need to take domestic abuse more seriously as well as the rest of the public. You should never go back to an abusive relationship. I did, but only to be threatened with violence again and receive no apology. My boyfriend told me a few months before he attacked me that his father had abused his mother years ago and his father went to jail for it. He told me he didn’t like that his father did that, yet my boyfriend turned around and abused me, just like his father abused his mother. If you are in an abusive relationship, you need to get out, no matter what they say or how many times they apologize, they will most likely to it again. Rihanna should have left Chris Brown and used that experience to become an advocate for domestic abuse victims and raise awareness. Domestic abuse IS wrong and unexcusable, no matter what.

By: Patrick Elder (aKa)N.O.

Patrick Elder (aKa)N.O. — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 16:46:05 +0000

Hey i know a lil about bad relationships.I am fom neworleans louisiana.I been with the sam gurl for the last two years.We had got into it november 8 the day before i got locked up and sent here to TYC.That is were i am at now.But yeah we had got into it because she is pregnet wit my baby but she want stop smoking weed.I told her one day that she ws goin to stop.I took the weed from her and she got mad and went to the kitchen and grabed a knife.She stab me ten times for that.We had brok up for a lil while,but every gurl i had dated when we broke up she would fight them.When we did get back togrther she said she wasnt goin to try to fight me anymore.But that didn’t last long.She had stabed me again.But i can’t leave her cause i love her to much so what should i do about it write a letter at