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A Little Respect

Sun, 09/04/2011 - 23:00 -- admin

Summer is coming to a close and school is almost back in session. As football season, a new batch of classes and your school year sleep schedule gear up this fall, you have the opportunity to educate your school about dating violence.

Consider the activities you’re in at school, and how you might use those to help spread the word. Are you on the Student Council? Suggest placing hand-outs about dating abuse around your school. Are you on your school’s yearbook or newspaper staff? You might be able to place an article about dating violence or healthy dating in an upcoming edition of your publication.

Zelda Mayer, one of our volunteers for loveisrespect shared her experience of working at the Helpline in her high school’s news publication, The Featherduster. Here’s an excerpt from her article below:

It was cold and damp, and I had failed. I fastened my seat belt, watching the windshield wipers swipe back and forth. Twenty four hours of training and twice that many volunteering, but at that moment I felt power­less.

Documentary Seeks Interviews

Mon, 08/29/2011 - 23:00 -- admin

For those involved in abuse, sharing their story can be a healing experience. We were recently contacted by a major national TV network that is filming a documentary on dating abuse. The network seeks both the perspective of the survivor and the abuser in order to create a holistic portrayal of dating violence.

If you are between the ages of 18 and 21 and feel comfortable talking about your experiences, we invite you to download this document and apply.

When Courting Gets Creepy

Thu, 08/25/2011 - 23:00 -- admin

A lot of us want to know: was Jim Carrey being creepy or funny when he sent Emma Stone his video love letter? In case you’ve missed the story, a video circulated yesterday in which Jim Carrey declared his love for Easy A actress, Emma Stone, saying that if he was a lot younger, he’d love to have, “chubby little freckle-faced kids” with her, and went on to describe their imaginary future in his mind.

Check it out:

Today, Huffington Post ran an article declaring it a joke, and yet, there are still a lot of people waiting to laugh.

College 101: A Guide to Healthy Relationships for Freshmen

Sun, 08/21/2011 - 23:00 -- admin

If MTV’s Real World has taught us anything, it’s that when strangers cohabitate, things get a little interesting. As you meet your first roommate, register for classes and move away from home, here are some changes in relationships to keep in mind to have an awesome first year away at college.

Dorm Life
Whether you’re living with one roommate or a group of suitemates in a same-sex or co-ed residence hall, dorms supply you with plenty of interaction with other people at all hours of the day. In addition to making friends during late night games of pool and ice cream socials, you’re likely to hit it off with someone from your dorm and maybe even begin dating.

Breaking Up Safely

Sun, 08/14/2011 - 23:00 -- admin

We here at loveisrespect were deeply saddened by the death of Massachusetts teen Lauren Astley. Astley’s phone, during her shift at a clothing boutique, was “blowing up” with text messages from her ex-boyfriend, her supervisor said. The texts were so unrelenting that she agreed to meet with him after she finished work. Read more about it here.

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The most dangerous time for a partner in an abusive relationship is when the relationship is ending. As the power and control is slipping through the fingers of the abuser, the anger and hurt they feel over the break-up often translates into very serious violence. We get a lot of calls and chats from abused partners wanting to break things off, but fearing of what happens next. Come up with a plan. Here are some things to think about:

T9 This! Are You Being Textually Harassed?

Wed, 08/10/2011 - 23:00 -- admin

Texting is currently the most instant form of communication next to talking one-on-one. Though many people have grown accustomed to texting rather than dialing up their significant other for an old fashioned phone call, texting can feel impersonal, or even anonymous, since it doesn’t convey tone or emotion the way a voice can. While texting might be the perfect platform to send cute love notes to your partner before bed, there are some things to look out for in a textual relationship with your partner.

Does your partner text you too much?
You’re at a family dinner on a Friday night and your phone hasn’t stopped buzzing since you sat down to eat and your family is starting to look at you funny. You told your girlfriend that you’d be at dinner until nine, but she keeps texting you anyway, wondering when you’ll be done and demanding that you respond in the next five minutes or she’s breaking up with you.

This kind of texting is not only irritating, but unnecessary. Keeping in touch with your significant other throughout the day can be thoughtful, but the constant need for contact is over-doing it. Maybe it’s time you talk to your partner about giving you a little bit of space by suggesting that he or she text friends to hang out instead of blowing up your phone.

Summer Fling—Still Working?

Mon, 08/08/2011 - 23:00 -- admin

Summer romances can be fun. Maybe you finally got together with your school crush just before school ended or maybe you met someone while away at summer camp. Summer temperatures are only getting hotter, but have you checked the temperature on your relationship lately? Here’s a little quiz from us here at loveisrespect to make sure things are still going swimmingly.

Ten Check-In Questions

Violence Against Women is Never Trendy

Wed, 08/03/2011 - 23:00 -- admin

Starting around 11 p.m. on Saturday, a flurry of tweets were being sent out with the hashtag #reasonstobeatyourgirlfriend. Early into Sunday morning, it became the top trending topic and remained on the list of trending topics for a good part of the day Sunday.

Tweets with the trending hashtag were often sexist jokes, references to the Chris Brown and Rihanna incident from last year and references to women cheating. Some tweeters responded by questioning the trend and offering support to victims of domestic violence. Some even mentioned the National Domestic Violence Hotline, @NDVH, as well as our number here at the National Dating Abuse Helpline.

Twitter as a company was also called out by users for its refusal to remove it as a trending topic. The company policy states that topics with obscenities are removed, but gives no guidance on offensive content. The trending topic soon sparked a debate over Twitter’s ability to censor the topics on its site.

The Bystander Effect

Wed, 08/03/2011 - 23:00 -- admin

Dating violence doesn’t just affect the individuals in a couple. Rather, a community of support is necessary to help a survivor reach safety and peace. Whether you are a parent, friend or unacquainted bystander, you have the ability to become involved. Here are some dos and don’ts to consider when you’re in a situation where you can take action and interrupt a violent situation.


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