What’s healthy – and what’s not healthy – when it comes to sex in a relationship? Anitra, Leo and Carrington (Care Bear) are back to talk about sex, baby! Check out the next video in our “What’s Love Got to Do With It?” series.
Should you share passwords with your partner? Is it okay to go through your partner’s phone? Check out what Anitra and her co-stars have to say about social media and relationships in our new video series, “What’s Love Got to Do With It?”
Hey friends! Let’s have real conversations about what’s healthy – and what’s not healthy – in relationships!
In our new video series, we’re exploring different issues that people face in their relationships. First up: is privacy/alone time in a relationship a good thing? Check out what our host, Anitra, and her special guests have to say:
By Heather, an advocate. This is the first of a two-part series. This post is for bi+ folks!
Hey bisexual readers, we see you! March is Bisexual Health Awareness Month, so we want to talk about the health of your relationships.
If you’re bisexual (or pan- or polysexual, hetero- or homoflexible, or Queer & non-monosexual) it’s possible that your sexuality has caused some concerns or confusion in your relationship. (Sadly, bisexual women are more likely than any other group to experience intimate partner violence.) We’re here to tell you that none of this is your fault! Healthy relationships are based on trust, honesty, respect and equality. Everyone, of every sexual orientation, deserves that. No matter which gender you or your partner are, your bisexuality is valid.
Dating after being in an abusive relationship can be nerve-wracking and complicated. If you’ve experienced abuse, you might have more trouble connecting emotionally with potential partners, you might have a hard time trusting people or you might feel like your ideas about what is healthy/unhealthy in a relationship were warped by your abusive partner. These are all totally normal feelings to have, and it’s important to be gentle with yourself moving forward. Healing is a process. There’s no set timeline or “right” way to do it.
If you’d like to start dating again after experiencing abuse, here are some things to consider:
By Anitra, loveisrespect youth organizer
“When you talk to other girls in front of me…”
“When you dress like you’re single…”
“You see me calling and don’t answer…”
“That’s so disrespectful!”
“You’re so disrespectful!”
When speaking with people about their relationship experiences, one word I hear a lot is “disrespectful.” Disrespectful behavior can happen in any relationship, whether with someone we’re dating or a friend or family member. However, there are times when someone labels a behavior as disrespectful when it’s….not. Sometimes our ideas about what’s disrespectful are influenced by unrealistic expectations about our relationships, as well as feelings of jealousy, possessiveness or insecurity – which can all contribute to unhealthy or even abusive behavior. It’s okay to feel jealous or insecure at times (we all do!). But it’s never okay to use those feelings as excuses to control or isolate your partner.
People have a lot of different ideas about what the word “respect” means. Sometimes, it is used to mean admiration for someone important or inspirational to us. Other times, respect refers to deference towards a figure of authority, like a parent, relative, teacher, boss or even a police officer. In this context, it is presumed that respect should be given to those who have certain types of knowledge and power. And then other times, respect means upholding the basic right that every person has to make their own choices and feel safe in their own daily lives.
This post was contributed by Heather, a loveisrespect advocate
It’s a New Year, which means lots of people have been making resolutions and talking about their goals and expectations for 2017. We all know how it goes: we often have totally unrealistic expectations for the upcoming year, and then we get mad at ourselves when we can’t live up to them. That’s why it’s so important to understand what’s realistic…and what’s not.
It’s the same with relationships. At loveisrespect, we often chat with people who have unrealistic relationship expectations, and this can lead to a lot of struggle or even unhealthy behaviors. Today, we want to break down some unrealistic expectations about relationships that can make them unhealthy or even abusive from the start. A healthy relationship requires trust, honesty, mutual respect and equality, and those are exactly the things that are missing when people come into relationships with these unrealistic expectations. Let’s dive in!
We talk a lot about the importance of trust and setting boundaries in a healthy relationship. Your boundaries help define what’s important to you and help you feel safe. It’s really important for partners to talk about and be aware of each other’s boundaries, and to be able to trust that the other person won’t cross or ignore them.
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