Let’s talk summer flings. Not all of them need to be the love of your life; a relationship can be just for fun. For most relationships, now that you are free from a strict school schedule, you can fit in more time for dating. Whether you are just starting a harmless fling or continuing something more serious, your relationship may be a little different during the summer.
Accept that your relationship is going to change.
For those who are continuing relationships, know that not seeing each other every day in the hallways and after school is going to require some adapting on both of your parts. Now, you will have to go out of your way to see each other, possibly in unfamiliar places. Keep in mind that it is the summer, so not everyone is going to want to be as rigid about scheduling dates and times to hang out. Some people may want to sleep in until noon and hang out until 3 a.m., and that’s OK. Most importantly, try to be open and flexible about these changes.
Set expectations about how often you want to see each other, how often you will talk, etc. Find out where your partner sees this relationship going and see if it matches up with your own ideas. Is this a summer fling or on the path to something more serious? Be honest with your partner about what you’re thinking.
Some changes can be good, like trying out new ideas for dates together. Instead of the usual dinner and a movie, what about spending the day paintballing or swimming? No school means more weekday opportunities for dates. Spend the day fishing, hiking or cooking a meal. Even cheering on a local baseball team can be a nice change of pace. Just try to have fun and enjoy the time together.
Research has shown that physical proximity can really affect how you feel about your partner. So, try to spend time just being around each other. Even if that means lounging out by the pool for four hours or walking your dog together, just try to spend time together.
This may be a good time to test your juggling act. Summer can be a great time to reconnect with old friends and hang out with your family. Take some time for board game night and family dinners. This can also be a great time to enjoy time with both of your friends and your partner. Amusement parks, water parks, camping trips, an impromptu soccer game can let you get the best of both worlds. Staying close to your friends and family is important too.
Summer romances are fun because they can link two people who may not otherwise get together. For example, maybe you and your other go to different colleges in different cities. Or you meet someone while on vacation or during an internship. Getting to date someone unexpected is great — just be upfront about what you’re looking to get out of the relationship. If you know you’re heading back to a stressful year come fall and you don’t want something serious, just let the other person know before the end of summer “talk.” That way, everyone can be comfortable knowing what’s going on.
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