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Building Support Systems While in an Unhealthy Relationship

Sometimes building and maintaining support systems can be tricky in a relationship. Time that you would have usually dedicated to friends is now being spent on the relationship, or maybe your partner is getting jealous when you talk or hang out with others. It’s normal if these behaviors are making you feel lonely, especially if your partner asked you to not talk about your relationship to other people.

Feeling isolated because of your relationship is unhealthy and can even be considered an abusive relationship if your partner is actively trying to keep you from communicating with others. Feeling isolated can happen at anytime during a relationship, especially if you moved in with an abusive partner. Everyone deserves to have a support system, whether their relationship is generally pretty healthy or if their relationship has become abusive. If you are in an unhealthy relationship and are wondering how to build a support system you might ask:

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Why Am I Struggling to Move On After Abuse?

Leaving an abusive relationship can be one of the hardest things a person does. But even after your ex is out of your life, sometimes the emotional and mental effects from experiencing abuse can linger on. You may experience feelings of depression, guilt, anger, loss and even symptoms of posttraumatic stress disorder:

  • Anxiety
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Being easily frightened or scared
  • Avoiding of stressful triggers that remind you of abuse
  • Difficulty maintaining relationships
  • Feeling emotionally numb

There is no one way to feel or heal after you leave an abusive relationship.

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Shhhh…Keeping a New Relationship Secret

New relationships are exciting! Usually, we can’t wait to let everyone know, change our Facebook status and spend all our time with our new flame.

But sometimes just when you’re ready to make every profile picture be a couple shot, your partner stops you: “Let’s just keep this a secret between us.”

When a relationship’s secret, it might add to the excitement for awhile — you sneak around to new places, come up with secret meeting spots and maybe even have code names. Your relationship is something just the two of you share.

It’s understandable to want to wait a couple weeks before telling the world. However, if you or your partner wants to keep it a secret indefinitely, you might think twice about why you’re not ready to share.

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Guest Post: Setting the Stage for Ongoing Support

*Major LIR thanks to our guest blogger today, Heather Davies, LCSW, who is a queer therapist and trainer currently in private practice in Austin, TX. She has worked with and for the Voices Against Violence Program at the University of Texas at Austin in various capacities over the past eight years. We’re excited to share her insightful post*

The media offers us little in the way of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer/questioning (LGBTQ) relationship diversity or models of healthy and satisfying LGBTQ relationships. Sadly, with this invisibility often comes the assumption that such relationships cannot or do not include dating abuse and interpersonal violence, as well.

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Isolation & Exclusion

The following Video Diary depicts a common type of abuse teens may experience in relationships – isolation/exclusion. This is categorized by controlling what another person does, who he/she sees or talks to, what she/he reads, where she/he goes, limiting outside involvement and using jealousy to justify actions.

Jenny is keeping Adam from his friends and family. She is texting him constantly and she is always keeping tabs on him. Those are all red flags of an unhealthy relationship.

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