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Dating Tips from a Pro?

Wed, 03/13/2013 - 07:00 -- kdudley

New York Knicks guard J.R. Smith is no stranger to attracting attention both on the court and off. His Twitter pick up lines have made headlines, and now he’s taken it a step further and created a list of rules for anyone wanting to date an athlete: 

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1 – Always Be There For Them
2 – Accept The Fact They Are Always Busy
3 – Please Them When Needed
4 – Don’t Stress Them Out
5 – Support Their Decisions And Actions
6 – Be Their Number One Fan
7 – Massage Them When They’re Sore
8 – Don’t Nag At Them After Practice Or A Game
9 – Cater To Them After Practice
10 – Keep In Mind You’re More Important When You Can Prove To Them You Can Handle Everything They Do
11 – Motivate Them To Do Better
12 – Most Of All, Love & Be There For Them Even If They Don’t Succeed Or Fail, It’s When They Need You Most.

When it comes to relationships, athletes do not get to play by a different set of rules.

If taken away from this list as a whole, there are some ideas that really can be part of a healthy relationship

Others, however, are definitely warning signs of an unhealthy or abusive relationship...no matter who you're dating.  

How good are you at spotting the difference?

Comment below and tell us what you think!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Submitted by Arthi (not verified) on

To me, most of the list seems like either soppy BS you see shared on facebook, or traps for falling into abuse. Forgive me, I could be jaded by my last relationship.

2 – Accept The Fact They Are Always Busy
This would really hurt. A better option would be for both people to try to understand each others schedules and perspectives.

3 – Please Them When Needed
Hello! Subservient much?

4 – Don’t Stress Them Out
And let stress build up inside yourself? What if their behaviour stresses you out? This could have been worded better.

7 – Massage Them When They’re Sore
This is a HUGE red flag for me cause part of the abuse I encountered was to massage my ex after working the same amount of hours as him, and coming home and cooking from scratch and washing up, even though I had a bad back and he did not. Why is this list one sided? Doesn't every relationship need both partners to work at it?

9 – Cater To Them After Practice
Again, one sided.

10 – Keep In Mind You’re More Important When You Can Prove To Them You Can Handle Everything They Do
I've got mixed feelings about this. Love is conditional to an extent, no one can shirk all their responsibilities and expect to be loved. But this is like holding love to ransom.

Thank you for this exercise, it helped me vent.

Submitted by khristian (not verified) on

im shocked at this id like to know what hes thinking in his mind that makes him better then other people and they have to be treated differently then other people and be put on a pedistool above there partner...i dont know if what ijust said makes sense but thats what im thinking

Submitted by Glenda Mcphearson (not verified) on

I mean seriously? Is he frustrated or what? I still don’t believe that he is trying to make his own rules of how to attract men. I think he should leave it to females’ part. He should worry about his own personal matters. To me, it doesn’t make any sense at all.