How would you help?

Have you ever wanted to help a friend in an abusive relationship but didn’t know how? Have you ever tried to help someone and they didn’t end their relationship? Were you disappointed? Did you wonder why you even bothered? Helping a person in an abusive relationship is frustrating sometimes. Be patient. Maybe they will come around and maybe they won’t. But by trying to help you show your friend that you support them and can be trusted. Remember it is difficult and scary to leave an unhealthy relationship. Take this quiz to find out how ready and willing you are to help.

Your friend Elisha and John, a guy she met at work, have been going out for a while. One day, John showed up at Elisha’s school and saw her give a male friend a hug. John grabbed her arm and pulled her to his car where he called her a slut and a cheater. If I saw this happen...

Elizabeth is dating her classmate Marc. Things seem great, but in private Marc isn’t very nice. He grabs her arms hard and leaves bruises. When he found out she was pregnant, he shoved her repeatedly and yelled at her for messing up his life. If Elizabeth came to me for help…

Christina and your friend Eric have been dating for a year. Christina is really jealous and always accuses Eric of cheating on her even though he hasn’t. She texts him constantly and checks all his emails. When they fight, she calls him names and tells him no one else will ever love him. If I heard Christina yelling at or putting Eric down…

Rebecca and Janet met at the mall. When they first began dating, Rebecca was very sweet. Over time, she started putting Janet down and once ended a fight by slapping her. Things got worse and Rebecca told Janet if she ever left her, she would kill herself. If I knew about all of this and another friend asked me if I thought Janet was ok…

Ana and Jeremy have been dating for two years and have a baby together. Jeremy has been physically abusive toward Ana and even screams at their child. Ana loves Jeremy and does not want to break up their family. If I told Ana I was concerned about her and the baby and offered to help, but she turned me away and said I was wrong about Jeremy…

8-10pts
Your Score

When it comes to your friends, you’re willing to put yourself out there and give them the support they need. That’s great! Being in an abusive relationship is never easy, so letting your friend know that they can count on you for help is the best thing you can do.

5-7pts
Your Score

You care about your friend and your heart is in the right place, but you’re having some difficulty reaching out. Some people in abusive relationships may not realize they’re in danger or may be afraid to ask for help. You shouldn’t be afraid to reach out and let them know you’re worried about their safety. At least you’ll know you tried your best and they’ll know you are someone they can trust.

0-4pts
Your Score

Dealing with someone who is in an abusive relationship can be difficult. But that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t at least try. Remember that being in an abusive relationship is scary and lonely, and some people don’t know how to ask for help. Be there for your friends. You may be the only person they can count on. Learn how to help a friend who is experiencing abuse at www.loveisrespect.org.

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