It’s the plotline of so many movies and tv shows, seemingly dreaded by all who date: the friend zone.
When someone says they’re in the friend zone, they usually mean that they want to have a more intimate, romantic, and/or sexual relationship with a person who considers them to be “just friends.”
But we’re here to tell you something that might blow your mind: the friend zone is a myth!
Crazy, right? We’ll give you a few minutes to let that sink in.
We know it definitely sucks to have feelings for someone who doesn’t feel the same way about you. It’s okay to feel disappointed or hurt by that. But the reason we call the friend zone a myth is because there really is no “zone” that you can be “put into” by someone else. Everyone has the right to decide who they do and do not want to date or be intimate with.
Today we’re going to talk about a subject that’s usually considered taboo, at least in our society: pornography*. Good thing nothing is taboo at loveisrespect! Lots of people who get in touch with us have questions about porn, so if you have questions too, you’re not alone.
Pornography is actually sort of complicated and difficult to define for a lot of people, mostly because every person you meet is going to have a different definition of what it is. Some people consider romance novels pornography, others think porn can only be videos or magazines with graphic and explicit sexual material. One thing that all pornography has in common is that it’s meant to create sexual arousal or desire in the person who is consuming it. That’s a pretty broad definition that can include a lot of stuff, since everyone’s feelings about sex are different.
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