Looking the Other Way: Why Didn't Kailyn's Friends Speak Up?

Thu, 03/28/2013 - 11:45 -- kdudley

Kailyn and Javi weren’t the only people involved in the fight on Teen Mom 2 this past Monday. Even though they chose to remain silent during the argument, Kailyn's two friends played a role.

Whether we know the people involved or witness dating abuse in public, we become what is known as a bystander and as bystanders we have the responsibility and ability to diffuse aKailyn with friends situation.

When the girls spoke about the fight afterward, neither told Kailyn her behavior was wrong. Instead they downplayed her actions saying it could have been worse.

As we talked about in the last post, Kailyn says she wants to change. The first thing she needs to do is take responsibility for her behavior. Her friends downplaying or justifying it doesn’t help the process.

So what can you do if you find yourself in Kailyn’s friends’ situation?

Don’t Mind Your Own Business

Whether your friend engages in the abusive behavior or endures it, you can stop the situation by simply butting in. Let both people know the behavior isn’t right. If you don’t feel comfortable doing that, starting a conversation about anything with one of them might disrupt the situation enough for everyone to take a step back.

Treat Them Like a Friend

We talk to our friends about everything, so why not dating abuse? Kailyn’s friends should be there for her, but also hold her accountable for what she did. It’s the only way she can begin to work toward change.  We want our friend to know they have our support, but their behavior is wrong.

If your friend is exhibiting abusive behavior, try to think of it from the other person’s perspective. You’d never want your friend to experience abuse, so don’t look the other way while they put someone else through it. Remind them that change will create a better, healthier relationship for both of them.

Remember, you’re not turning against your friend, you’re helping them have a healthy relationship.

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What did you think of how Kailyn’s friends handled the situation?

Would you have done something different?

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