You are at the mall and you see a couple fighting. Things escalate and you see one of the partners hit the other person across the face. You are shocked someone did that, and you have no idea who these people are. What would you do?
Do you think it’s ever OK for a partner to share private texts or photos of you with their friends or on their social media profiles? Explanation below:
You were correct! We received 84 votes and 51 votes were right. The answer is—NO WAY!
At loveisrespect, we hear from many people who have experienced this form of abuse. Some victims have willingly shared images privately with their partners, only to have their partners break their trust and later threaten to distribute those images publicly. Others have had partners coerce or force them into creating sexually explicit materials in order to shame, control and manipulate them. Alternatively, an abusive partner might take photographs or videos without the victim’s knowledge and then use the threat of sharing those materials online to maintain control over the victim. All of these can be considered a form of digital abuse, which is also known as revenge porn. Revenge porn can be extremely traumatizing for victims and in some cases, it’s even illegal in some states! If your partner is pressuring you to send explicit pictures or videos, or if they are threatening to share materials you have shared privately with them, call, chat or text with us any time. Our advocates are here to provide support, safety planning tips, and can also connect you with local or legal resources depending on your situation.
Do you think it’s ever OK for a partner to share private texts or photos of you with their friends or on their social media profiles?
Do you think it’s ever OK if your partner demands to know the passwords to all of your social media accounts?
You guys are on fire! We received 255 votes and 204 of you were right–The answer is—NO WAY! Well done! 🙂
While you and your partner may trust each other and have absolutely nothing to hide, it’s a concerning behavior to demand the password to your Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or Snapchat accounts. While you might be cool with following each other on social media, being forced to share passwords should not be considered a healthy relationship behavior. Why? Because controlling what you do on social media can be considered digital abuse! We know healthy relationships are based on trust and respect, so it might be helpful to communicate openly—and respectfully— with your partner, so you can find out why they are feeling they need to have access to your social media accounts. Also, setting clear boundaries about what’s right and fair in your relationship might be helpful. You deserve to have your personal space respected—whether in person or in the virtual world. Last, consider this: If you think you can’t tell your partner you are not comfortable sharing your passwords to your social media because you are afraid they might react with anger or violence, that’s a warning sign that your relationship might be unhealthy or abusive.
If you need help dealing with that or any other issues in your relationships, please know you can reach out to a loveisrespect advocate at any time. You can call us at 1-866-331-9474, chat online at loveisrespect.org or by text the word “loveis” to 22522 to speak with an advocate. Our services are totally free, confidential and 24/7/365.
Don’t miss our next poll this Monday, Feb. 12. Answers will be published on Friday, Feb. 16.
We hope to hear from you soon!