Should We Get Back Together?

Thu, 10/10/2013 - 02:28 -- cristina

By Nicole Seligman
Loveisrespect Peer Advocate

I know you said you were never, ever, ever getting back together with them, but now you're having second thoughts and aren't sure what to do. It's ok! We wrote up a little checklist to help you decide.

  • I feel that I can communicate openly with this person about anything that's bothering me without getting into an argument.
  • I respect this person's boundaries and I know that they respect mine too.
  • I trust that this person isn't lying or cheating on me without having to go through their phone or social media to make sure.
  • I do not feel afraid that this person might lash out at me verbally or physically.
  • I know that this person would never pressure me to do anything I'm not comfortable with.
  • I would never try to make this person do anything that they haven't consented to.
  • I recognize that I can only control my own behaviors and am not responsible for anyone else's.
  • I've seen significant and continuous change in this person or myself when it comes to the reasons the relationship ended.
  • We encourage each other to spend time outside of the relationship with friends and activities.
  • I feel that I am treated as an equal by this person.

Is there an item on this list that you weren't able to check off? Getting back together may not result in a healthy or safe relationship. Still unsure? Talk, text or chat with one of our advocates 24/7.


Submitted by brook lnn (not verified) on

cristina how can i get back with a guy that i turely love and by the way i am 14 and this guy name is masion how can i get him back because i cry almost every day about him?

Submitted by Randa Dean (not verified) on

I think that this is a very helpful checklist. I have had multiple friends that have broken up with their partners, just to find themselves sucked back into the same relationships over again. I will be sure to tell them about this site and the helpfullness in it.

Submitted by ArmandoM. (not verified) on

good tips to know for a break up and back together relationship. So teens know what to do.

Submitted by leonor arenas (not verified) on

My boyfriend and i just broke up and its really hard for me to get over him because i still like him a lot and he makes me happy we broke up but we are still good friends like i mean we talk to each other and act like everything is fine and now we are talking about kissing and all this what should i do? cause i like him and everything but i think its a bad idea to kiss him even if we aren't dating anyone