At loveisrespect, we want to do our best to help every caller and chatter. Our advocates are trained to help you assess your situation and sort out the most fitting options for you. If you’re nervous about reaching out, here are some things you might want to consider as you take your first steps.
Is This a Good Time to Call?
It’s best to call or chat with a loveisrespect advocate when you’re alone and don’t have a lot of other distractions. If your parents or friends are around or if you’re watching videos on YouTube and chatting on Facebook, it may not be the best time for you to reach out. Also, for your safety, don’t call or chat when your partner is present or if you think your partner may be coming home soon.
What Are My Greatest Needs?
Callers and chatters reach out in search of a lot of different answers. Help us know what you need by telling us about your specific situation and how it has made you feel. A really productive conversation with an advocate fulfills a purpose and satisfies your needs. Before calling, try to prioritize your needs so that the advocate can find you the right answers.
What Is a Good Next Step?
Advocates want to meet you where you are. Some callers are in their first relationship or just reaching out for the first time and are looking for tips on communicating better with their partner, while others are preparing to leave their relationship and need a local resource for assistance. It is helpful to us if you’ve already considered, for instance, whether or not you want to stay in the relationship or if you might want to visit a counselor. A good way to do this is to make both immediate and future goals as to where you envision yourself and your relationship going.
Can You Picture a Timeline?
Sharing your experiences with an advocate can be simplified by telling us about particular events or moments when you felt unsafe or unhappy with your partner. Another good idea is to come up with a relationship timeline that illustrates when you began feeling concerned that things weren’t right. Advocates can’t really contribute until they have some idea of what you’ve gone through, so getting this information out as soon as possible in the call or chat helps move the conversation along.
Now that you’ve prepped yourself to reach out, why don’t you give us a call? Our advocates are waiting to hear from you.