For us, the most jaw-dropping moments of the Grammy Awards didn’t happen at the award show. Sure, there were some strange and memorable performances, but we were more captivated by what happened in the Twittersphere in response to Chris Brown’s performances.
Today, BuzzFeed shared the 25 most disturbing reactions to Chris Brown at the Grammys. The article highlighted 25 tweets that talked about how willing women were to be abused by Chris if it meant that they also got to be with him.
One girl tweeted, “I don’t know why Rihanna complained. Chris Brown could beat me anytime he wanted to.” Another shared, “Dude, Chris Brown can punch me in the face as much as he wants to, just as long as he kisses it.”
Joking or not, these comments minimize the pain felt by victims of dating abuse. Statements like these perpetuate the myth that dating abuse isn’t a big deal. No one wants, or deserves, to be in an abusive relationship.
Young victims of dating abuse are afraid to share their stories and get help for a number of reasons, one of which is that they may not be believed or supported. If we talk like this with our friends, then we are sending a message that we don’t take abuse seriously. This discourages our friends from coming to us for help or being open about their situation.
We want to be clear that our reaction to this has nothing to do with Chris Brown. We are not ok with these comments because they create a hurtful, insensitive environment for any victims of abuse.
This is an opportunity for education. We encourage you to share the BuzzFeed article with your friends and help us spread the word that minimizing the pain of victims and survivors is not right.
What do you think? How did reading the BuzzFeed article make you feel?