Welcome to the July edition of RespecText!
Tools for Teens
- Self-care is such an important part of our daily lives, but what is it and how do you do it?
- Checking In or Checking Up: how do you tell the difference?
- Building Trust After Cheating: it can be done, but it takes time and effort from both partners.
- The National Youth Advisory Board held its annual retreat in North Carolina this month! Check out some highlights and the winning PSA from the trip on the loveisrespect blog.
- Our partner Break the Cycle has teamed up with HopeLine from Verizon to promote the #VoicesHavePower Campaign, which was created to inspire greater awareness and participation in a nationwide effort to end dating and domestic violence. For every message of hope, Verizon is donating $3 to support its partner programs. Learn how to get involved here.
News and pop culture always give us plenty to talk about with teens!
You may have heard about Robin Thicke’s latest release, “Get Her Back,” and the controversial music video accompanying it (we commented on the song and video for MTV’s Act). Thicke’s latest album, Paula, is a tribute to his estranged wife Paula Patton and attempts to reconcile with her through song lyrics, most of which appear to be fairly unhealthy to borderline abusive. Moments like this present a good opportunity to talk to teens about boundaries and respect, and discuss questions like, “Is this a healthy response to the situation? Where is the line between trying to repair a relationship and unhealthy behavior? If someone was doing this to you, how would you feel or respond?”
Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice was in the news again recently when we learned that he received a two game suspension from the NFL for domestic violence charges against his then-fiancee, Janay Palmer. Many people and organizations have expressed outrage at the NFL’s rather weak response, particularly considering that other players have received harsher punishments for using marijuana. This is part of a larger conversation about how much of our society doesn’t always take domestic violence seriously and/or grossly misunderstands the dynamics of abuse. As this case goes on, and as other cases like it continue to occur, it’s a good idea to be talking to teens about the importance of respect, accountability, and being critical of what they see in the media.
- In case you missed the recent webinar, “Insta-Decisions: Starting the Conversation with Teens About Explicit Pics and Social Media Safety,” presented by loveisrespect and National Latin@ Network, you can download it from the archives. This webinar will also be presented in Spanish on Wednesday, July 30th.
- This video has been around for a while, but if you haven’t seen it, it’s a great primer on the difference between being concerned and being controlling in a relationship.
- This video lets the viewer make the choice of whether or not to sext with a partner. We do agree with the powerful message that once you send something via text or any type of device, that information is no longer under your control. However, the video leaves out the importance of discussing respect, trust, and boundaries within relationships. It’s a good idea to reiterate to teens that they have ultimate control over their own bodies, and they never have to do anything – whether in the physical or digital world – that they aren’t comfortable with.
If you or a teen you know has questions about healthy vs. unhealthy dating relationships, get in touch with one of our advocates by calling 1-866-331-9474, chatting online at www.loveisrespect.org, or texting “loveis” to 22522.