You were right! We received 354 votes and 180 were correct. The answer is B- Talk to them one-on-one about what they’re going through.
It can be so difficult to watch someone you care about experience dating abuse or an unhealthy relationship. Its normal to feel unsure about how to help this person. Many people believe the best route is to gather all their loved ones together so that everyone can share why they’re concerned and hopefully convince the person to leave their abuser. This intervention approach may have good intentions, but it often ends up feeling isolating and controlling for them.
It may feel more supportive to talk with them about abuse one-on-one. As you talk with them, keep in mind that the abusive person is the only one responsible for the abuse, and asking your friend/family member about why they’re staying can feel like you’re placing blame on them. Instead, ask questions about what they’re going through and ask how you can support them. Try to avoid ultimatums that make them feel pressure to leave before they’re ready. It’s understandable that you want to rescue them from this situation, but ultimately, they’ll have to be the one to make the choice to leave when they’re ready. As their supporter, you can listen to them, safety plan with them, and refer them to resources that can help.
Do you have questions about how you can help a friend or family member who is going through dating abuse? Reach out to a loveisrespect advocate via phone, online chat, or text 24/7. Also, on Monday, February 25th, we will be hosting a Facebook Live event to dive deeper into this concept with loveisrespect advocates. They’ll be available to share even more education about how to support someone experiencing abuse and live answer questions at 1:00 PM CST. We hope to see you there!
Which of the following options would you consider to be a warning sign of dating abuse?
You were correct! We received 281 votes and 247 votes were spot on. The answer is—All of the above! But why?
Here at loveisrespect, we talk with many people who have misconceptions about what is and isn’t okay in a relationship. It is understandable that there may be some confusion, because there are a lot of incorrect messages out there regarding what a healthy relationship should look like. Many unhealthy behaviors are romanticized, and people may believe that jealous, controlling behaviors just mean their partner is extra passionate about them. We’re here to squash these myths! It’s never okay for your partner to embarrass you in public, to get jealous of you spending time with friends or family, or to feel they should have access to your passwords or social media accounts. These behaviors are warning signs to abuse. A healthy relationship is made up of respect, trust, safety, and support.
Have questions about this poll or about your relationship? Reach out to a loveisrespect advocate via phone, online chat, or text 24/7. Also, on Monday, February 11, we will be hosting a Facebook Live event to dive deeper into this concept with loveisrespect advocates. They’ll be available to provide even more education about healthy relationships and live answer questions at 1:00 PM CST. We hope to see you there!