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Beyonce's Jealous

Apr 22, 2014

Oh, Beyoncé. It’s so easy to love her (and if you don’t love her, please don’t tell us and burst our bubble). Whatever you might think of her music, there’s no denying that she is a force in pop culture. She’s not afraid to speak her mind, and she still manages to surprise us from time to time.

Her latest album, Beyoncé, is deeply personal and gives us a glimpse into the singer’s life in a way none of her previous albums has. But while songs like “Drunk in Love” and “Partition” get the most downloads, less conspicuous and more complicated songs can go unnoticed. One of these less well-known songs is “Jealous.” You can watch the video here

The story in “Jealous” is that Beyoncé is waiting at home for her partner with a homemade dinner on the table, but he doesn’t show up. She doesn’t think he’s being honest with her, and she feels jealous. So she decides to put on her freakum dress and go out, dance, and have a good time with “no cares, no sorrows.” This is a great way to cope with feelings of jealousy or hurt - take a break, hang out with your friends, and have fun! 

There’s a lot going on in this song that could apply to many people’s relationships, but what we really can’t stop talking about is the bridge where she says:

And I love making you jealous but don't judge me
And I know that I'm being hateful but that ain't nothing
That ain't nothing
I'm just jealous
I'm just human
Don't judge me

We think this is pretty cool, because here is a powerful, famous person admitting that she gets jealous in her relationship, and that she’s “being hateful” and is “just human.” She’s examining and acknowledging these feelings, which are common feelings to HAVE, but what’s important is how you ACT on them. 

Here at loveisrespect, we talk to a lot of people about feeling jealous in their relationships. There are definitely healthy and unhealthy ways to handle jealous feelings, and one of the best things you can do is learn to communicate better with your partner. As Queen Bey shows us, we all get jealous sometimes, and that’s part of being human. But examining your feelings and owning up to your behaviors are important aspects of maintaining healthy relationships.

If you’re dealing with jealousy in your relationship, or if you have questions about what’s healthy vs. unhealthy, give us a call, chat or text and one of our advocates will be happy to talk with you!

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The National Domestic Violence Hotline, a partner of loveisrespect, provides 24/7 support, resources, and hope to victims of domestic violence, their friends, and family. Learn more at www.thehotline.org

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Teen Mom 2 Recap

Apr 16, 2014

This post was written by loveisrespect advocate Hannah Green.

This season of Teen Mom 2 has been especially dramatic (let’s not kid ourselves, Teen Mom is always dramatic). Our advocates have been watching along on #TeenMomTuesdays and talking about the healthy and not-so-healthy behaviors we’ve been seeing so far. Since the first episodes of Teen Mom 2, things have seemed to constantly change for Kailyn, Jenelle, Chelsea and Leah. Let’s discuss some of the stuff we’ve noticed:

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When Your Partner Threatens Suicide

Apr 8, 2014

“I’ll kill myself if you leave me.”

It seems like a no-win situation. When someone you’re close to says something like this, it can feel like the world just stopped spinning.

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The National Domestic Violence Hotline, a partner of loveisrespect, provides 24/7 support, resources, and hope to victims of domestic violence, their friends, and family. Learn more at www.thehotline.org

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