Am I a Good Partner?
Are you a good partner? Answer yes or no to the following questions to find out. Make sure to check the boxes to record your responses. At the end, you’ll find out how to score your answers.
Do I forget to thank my partner when they do something nice for me?
Do I ignore my partner's calls if I don't feel like talking?
Do I get jealous when my partner makes a new friend?
Do I have trouble making time to listen to my partner when something is bothering them?
Do I discourage my partner from trying something new like joining a club?
Do I call, text or drive by my partner's house a lot?
Do I get upset when my partner wants to hang out with their friends or family?
Do I make fun of my partner or call them names?
Do I criticize my partner for their taste in music or clothing?
Do I make fun of my partner's appearance?
Do I accuse my partner of flirting or cheating even if I'm not sure that's what happened?
Do I take out my frustrations on my partner, like snapping at them or giving them attitude?
Do I throw things if I'm mad at my partner or do things like hit walls or drive dangerously?
Do I read my partner's texts or go through their personal things, like their wallet or purse?
Do I tell my partner they are the reason for my bad mood even if they aren't?
Do I try to make my partner feel guilty about things they have no control over?
Do I sometimes say things to my partner knowing that they are hurtful?
Do I make my partner feel bad about something nice they did for me that I didn't like, even though I know they tried their best?
Do I talk down to or embarrass my partner in front of others?
Do I have sex with my partner even if I think they don't want to go that far?
If you got zero points, congratulations! You make a good Partner! It sounds like you’re very mindful of your actions and respectful of your partner’s feelings -- these are the building blocks of a healthy relationship. Keeping things on a good track takes work, so stay with it! As long as you and your partner continue like this, your relationship should grow in a healthy direction.
If you scored one or two points, there may be a couple of things in your relationship that could use a little attention. Nobody is perfect, but it is important to be mindful of your actions and try to avoid hurting your partner. Remember, communication is key to building a healthy relationship!
If you scored three or four points, it’s possible that some of your actions may hurt your partner and relationship. While the behaviors may not be abusive, they can worsen over time if you don’t change.
If you scored five or more points, some of your actions may be abusive. You may not realize it, but these behaviors are damaging. The first step to improving your relationship is becoming aware of your unhealthy actions and admitting they are wrong. It’s important to take responsibility for the problem and get help to end it. An unhealthy pattern is hard to change, so chat with a peer advocate at www.loveisrespect.org for more information on how to get help.
Want to learn more or talk about your score?