by Sam Dylan Finch. Originally posted on Everyday Feminism.
I still remember the moment I came out as genderqueer to my then-partner. I was finally sharing a deep and important truth about myself: I was ready to transition and was overjoyed at the prospect of having my partner by my side.
But for him, my transition was threatening.
“I just wouldn’t find you attractive anymore,” he told me.
That was all he would say about the matter. My heart broke that day.
While his sexual preferences are his prerogative, he had failed to be supportive. That made me afraid to transition. I was afraid of being abandoned, afraid that I could not be loved as I was.