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loveisrespect, National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline is sponsoring a video contest in conjunction with the launch or our new (and improved!) website and PSA. Teens between the ages of 13-18 can enter until December 1st. A brief rundown of the rules and info:

Make your own video based on the theme of dating abuse and the Teen Dating Bill of Rights. This could be as simple as you reciting the Dating Bill of Rights, but any genre is ok: animation, documentary, music.

Don’t use copywrited music or images in your video.

Use our logo or mention loveisrespect, National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline in your video. *Logos can be downloaded here.

Judges include America’s Next Top Model Winner Jaslene Gonzalez and Project Runway’s Tim Gunn.

The Grand Prize winner gets a trip to NYC (with a parent).

Please read the complete, more boring version of the rules. We really don’t want to disqualify your video. Thanks.

Last night I went to the movies with my friend and her boyfriend. He forced her to leave half way through the movie because he thought she talked to another guy on her way to the bathroom (he’s crazy). I’ve told her before she should break up with him, but she doesn’t listen to me. What can I do?

Seeing your friend treated this way sounds very frustrating, especially when it seems she doesn’t care about her happiness as much as you do. And you’re right – there is probably something wrong here. Her boyfriend sounds extremely jealous and controlling, which can be one aspect of an abusive relationship. However, you can’t fix this problem for her. Ordering her to break up with him will probably only push her closer to him and possibly further from you and her other friends.

What you can do:

• * When you are alone with your friend, tell her that the incident at the movie theater bothered you and that you’re worried about her.
• * Tell her you won’t try to make her decisions for her. Tell her you will be there to talk to if she ever decides she needs to talk about her relationship.
• * Try not to say negative things about him – it will only make her feel defensive of the relationship or even feel sorry for him. Instead, focus on the positive things about her and her life.
• * Encourage her to think about adults she could talk to if she ever needed to.
• * Refer her to loveisrespect, National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline. Let her know all calls and chats are confidential and anonymous. She may not seem interested, but at least she will have the information if she decides she needs to talk.

Friends and family are welcome to contact us too – so if you’d like to talk more about your friend, please give us call (or chat with us).

*all of our calls/chats are confidential. this question is a an example of one we get often.

We wanted to thank The Today Show for including the segment Is Your Teen Being Abused? on this morning’s show. The guest, Sara (a member of the Liz Claiborne Teen Task Force), did a great job of telling her story of surviving an abusive dating relationship. Plus, at the end of the segment our phone number and website was given and we saw an immediate increase in number of calls and visits to our website- which we always love.

For now, you can view the segment through The Today Show website.