By Laura R., a loveisrespect Advocate
In today’s world, it’s no secret that sites like OkCupid and apps like Tinder make it super easy and convenient to find potential dating partners. All it takes is a simple swipe right, and you could be matched instantly! But what if you find out that someone you’re already dating has a profile on one of these apps? That can certainly be overwhelming and difficult to process, and it’s definitely normal to feel a bit unsure of how to handle such a discovery!
To start, it’s important to acknowledge how you discovered your partner was on a dating app. Were you yourself swiping for new matches when you came across their profile? If you think it’s okay for you to look for someone new but aren’t okay with your partner doing so, that isn’t really fair. Holding yourself to a different set of rules than you’re holding your partner to can also be a red flag for abuse. Did you go through your partner’s phone or their computer to see they were doing?