Get Help For Yourself
Have a question about how to date in a healthy way?
Need to check in with an advocate about your relationship?
Want to raise a red flag?
Our trained peer advocates are available 24/7/365 to offer education, support and advocacy to teens and young adults, as well as their concerned friends and family members, who have questions or concerns about their dating relationships. We also provide information about dating abuse to service providers, counselors, teachers and members of law enforcement.
Peer advocates can connect you to resources in your area, provide you with helpful websites, help you create a plan to stay safe or just listen to your concerns. All conversations with peer advocates via phone, chat or text are free and confidential. You will never be asked for your name or other contact information, but an advocate may ask for your age and city to find local resources for you.
Chat With Us
Chat with a peer advocate by clicking on the “Chat Online Now” button at the top of the page. You do NOT have to download anything to use it.
If you can’t or don’t want to talk to an advocate on the phone, we offer the same support via our live chat service on loveisrespect.org. The live chat (IM-style) is not a public chat room. We use an internal messaging system specifically for young adults who need to contact a peer advocate — it is NOT a general chat messenger such as MSN Messenger, AIM, Yahoo Live Chat, Gchat or iChat.
Check out the Quick Chat Guide tabs below to help make your chat experience the best it can be!
How to Chat
When chatting with us, it’s best to use a computer or smartphone you are familiar with that has a strong internet connection. That minimizes the chance of issues like messages disappearing or the conversation ending abruptly. If your situation is extremely complex or you are having technical difficulties, consider contacting us by phone.
When to Chat
Chats move more quickly when both you and the advocate can focus and respond promptly. If the only time you can reach out to us is when borrowing someone’s phone for a few minutes or on your lunch break at work, that’s okay. But try not to chat when you need to be doing something else or will have to step away from the computer. We are a crisis line, so be aware that our chats timeout if they are inactive for too long.
What to Say
You know your situation best, so the more you can tell us about your needs, the better. Try to elaborate on yes/no answers when possible and ask for clarification if something an advocate says confuses you. In a chat, it’s also important to pay attention to how you say what you say. Using a lot of capital or uppercase letters may be difficult to read. We also ask that you use respectful language; our advocates are real people just like you!
Why to Reach Out
Everyone needs someone to talk to once in a while, but if your situation is not a crisis or is not related to abuse or healthy relationships, we might not be the most relevant resource for you. We do not provide criticism, give advice, or tell our chatters what to do. As advocates, we’re here to listen to what you’re going through, help you explore your options, ask you questions about your situation, and give you tips for staying safe.
If you’re in a hurry and need help ASAP, you definitely don’t have to fill out our pre-chat surveys, but when you do it helps us to better understand your situation. It also provides us with important information that we can use to improve our services and even affect public policy to protect victims of domestic violence and dating abuse.
Text* loveis (capitalization does not matter) to 22522. You will receive a response from a peer advocate prompting you for your question. Go ahead and text your comment or question and we will reply.
Have a smartphone? We can send interactive links and resources for you to access directly from your phone.
Is your problem bigger than 160 characters? Turn your text into a talk by asking an advocate for our phone number or using our chat service. If your situation is serious, we recommend calling or chatting first.
As always, we at loveisrespect are concerned for your safety. Please make sure you are in a safe space before you text. Always delete the conversation after you finish to ensure that no one else can access your information.
Speak to a peer advocate by calling 1-866-331-9474. When you call, be prepared for the advocate to first ask if you are in a safe place to talk. Once you are, the advocate will encourage you to explain your situation.
During the call, your peer advocate will work with you to come up with solutions that best meet your needs. Whether you are just leaving an abusive relationship or not sure if your relationship is unhealthy, advocates have received extensive training to help you determine the answer that best fits your life. If they suggest something that you don’t think will work for you, don’t be afraid to let them know.
After you and your advocate come up with ideas for your situation, the advocate will review them with you and can connect you to a local resource, if you’d like.
We receive a variety of questions from teens and 20-somethings all over the country. You could ask for help for yourself or for a friend in need. For example, we’re often asked:
“So, what should I do?”
“Is this abuse?”
“Will he ever change?”
“How can I get her to stop?”
No relationship question is off limits, too crazy or embarrassing. We are here to help!